The Need For Love #2
The practicality for receiving love has more to do with how you see yourself than how you see others loving you. Are you worthy of love? Are you aware that people love you? Who loves you? Why do they love you and how do they show that love? These questions are hard but will foster practicality. The first being we need to talk about what we desire when it comes to receiving love. Can you put words on what you want and need? Second, can you say, “Yes?” Are you able to simply receive love without feeling guilty, shameful or unworthy? Third, how do you seek love? Do you work for it, or manipulate it? Are you constantly proving your value and worth? That last one's a bitch to say the least. Proving you are worthy of love is exhausting and will leave you emotionally unavailable because it has more to do with your ego and fear than with the value of love. Those three things are the practical framework for the deeper journey into receiving. I also want to leave you with a scripture that helps put some cement around what love is; both in giving and receiving. This comes from 1st Corinthians.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
The practical steps in receiving love:
Talk - Your wants, needs, and desires.
Say YES! - Allow opportunities to receive.
Ask - Am I proving or manipulating my way to love?
When was the last time you asked someone, “Why do you love me?”
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