The Need For Love - #1
The call for acknowledgement runs deep. We struggle to be seen, heard, approved of...loved. It's real. We don’t dare speak these desires, afraid we might seem weak or needy. Weak or needy. We have done these words no favors. They have been beaten to the ground in the name of ego and fear. Wrapped in years of cultural assumptions. Tied to a tree and openly mocked as devices for the puny and fragil. I find it sorrowful. The years spent desiring love to no avail. All because our ego and fear keeps us emotionally unavailable. When was the last time you stood your ground in front of those you love, admire or respect and said, “please see me!” Sounds crazy, right? So uncomfortable but ohhh so needed. Such conversations seem to be reserved only for the death bed. So what's the bridge here? How can we be seen, heard, and acknowledged? How can we do it while maintaining healthy respectful boundaries and without getting lost in codependency, addictions or a number of mechanisms designed to keep us numb from our “needy” and “weak” desire for love? We start with working ourselves into a position to receive love. How do you receive love from people, from God, from community…from self? That’s a tough one, right? Turns out receiving love might be the hardest thing we learn as it requires us to lose our expectations of our desires to be loved while learning to love what might NOT love us. Super hard! Again, this is the bridge! There is so much more going on here. The practicality sits in your ability to allow your “need” to be loved words in all of your relationships; obviously with discernment. Bottom line for today; it's OK to want love! You should be loved! It's OK to give words to it! Remember we are on the bridge. The big questions: How do you receive love? Can you receive love? Do you know how to receive love? Contemplate that today. We will talk more about practicality tomorrow.
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