Kill Persona
Today will require a pinch of honesty. Exhausted. That's the best word to describe all the work that goes into manipulating people to like us, love us and accept us. I know there are a few of you out there that don't do that! Now, for those who do and are simply sick of working for everyone’s love, lets begin. First and foremost, what's the one thing that you NEED people to know about you and why? Second, does it have anything to do with who you really are or is it a ploy to get folks on the “you” train? Are you willingly creating a character that enhances your viability as a friend, spouse, professional, parent etc, etc? Persona is that character that you develop and deploy to receive love, affection, attention, acceptance or power. The problem with persona is 99% of the time it ain’t you. It’s usually a bucket full of traits and tricks that are welcomed by the masses, but never hold the intimacy of true self, who you really are. Persona creates shallow relationships, shallow levels of rapport that are never fortified in love. It’s a dark picture, isn't it? Yes! So, we move to kill persona. We move to resurrect true self, bring to life who we are without the fear that we will never be loved and we do it counter-intuitively. We become willing to be vulnerable, sharing our wants, needs and desires regardless of how they might be perceived. Again, this work requires a truck load of honesty and is truly your life’s work. You begin this work by identifying your fears. List them, talk about them, allow your fear to point the way into true self. Simply put, you will find “you” in the opposites of your fear.
What parts of your persona do you protect?
Are you interested in spiritual direction? Here’s how to get started.
Step 1. Schedule a complimentary, no-obligation consult. Do that here.
Step 2. Watch your email for questions from me. Before we hop on the phone, I’d like to know a bit about you and what you’d like to get out of spiritual direction or coaching with me.
Step 3. Hit “reply” to that email and answer the questions.
Step 4. At the scheduled time of your consult, we’ll talk! We’ll use the opportunity to make sure we’re the perfect fit.
Step 5. Then we’ll get started! If you decide to work with me, I’ll tell you the exact steps for getting started. If you decide not to work with me or if we aren’t a perfect fit, I’m happy to share other resources to help you get what you need.
Have questions? You can call me… 619.964.0337
