Jealousy's Self Assessment
Jealousy is a nasty little beast. It keeps us silent and in some cases angry, quiet, resentfully hushed, hoping for the demise of another. Over the top? No! If you're being honest, have a look at the individuals in your life you are connected to as a result of jealousy. That exercise alone will deepen your understanding of how damaging jealousy can be. Defined, it is a defensive reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship, goal or desire. At this point we must remember we are human and jealousy comes with the territory. Jealousy needs accountability and that means talking about it. For the record that's the hardest part! So much of our value, worth and identity are tied to jealousy. That’s why it becomes a responsibility to make sure those close to us know of its existence. Without that accountability we run the risk of living season after season locked into a posture reacting defensively and that breeds contempt. Jealousy can be a great hyper-vigilant self-assessment tool helping us into larger awareness of who we are. It can be the very thing that holds our liberation, but we must be willing to sit in some uncomfortable truths about self. It may mean we see how fear dominates us or how ego has its way with us. It may mean we clearly see how we allow the opinions of others to set our value and worth. It may mean we have to admit failure or seek forgiveness. It may mean the opportunity to let go of self judgment and into the arms of love. Maybe? Or we can hang on to it’s silence inducing animosity as it closes us off to the rest of the world. We are human. We got it. Now let's get rid of it!
Who or what are you jealous of?
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